Ah freshmen year, the excitement being on a college campus without your parents hoarding your every move. The freedom to do what you want when you want. Even better, being an 18 year old man with a endless amount of beautiful, single women around you; however, I learned quickly that grades came first. I almost got kicked out of UMES my freshmen year because of my mischief but I quickly got my act together. Now, I’m in grad school and I’m running a news business. It’s about working smarter, not just harder. Here are my four tips for college freshmen guys
1. GRADES BEFORE ANYTHING: Yes, I know. In college they’re endless women, turn ups, and days where you will hang out with your boys. If you want to keep doing that, you need the grades that will allow you to do those things. It’s much harder to raise your grades than to maintain them so understand this…. YOUR GRADES MATTER!
2. SMARTER NOT HARDER: Don’t over work yourself to the point of careless exhaustion. Regardless of your work ethic, you will fail. It’s not about how hard you work to get your 4.0, it’s about the method you use to achieve that 4.0. If you’re a communications major,like myself, get a math and science tutor. They can help you achieve As in classes that a communications major would normally struggle in. A communication major will achieve As in classes that suit their strengths. That’s what you call achieving a 4.0 with less effort. The energy you would’ve used by yourself to achieve a 4.0 can be spent by getting involved on campus.
3. TREAT WOMEN WITH RESPECT: Fellas, yes we naturally flirt with women but do it respectfully. No means no, no matter what. One secret, women like men who can show restraint and not try to over pursue them. Don’t be the guy who hits on every girl he sees or is in the group of guys who hollar at every girl who walks by. Women don’t like men like that. If you like a girl, approach her by yourself. If she doesn't want you, it’s okay. You can just be her friend. Also THEY’RE too much women in college to obsess with one girl who is not your girlfriend. Don’t lie about her sex history because she denied you. That’s not cool, you wouldn’t want a woman calling you a “hoe”. Thus this is how I met my girl. I approach her by myself and just had a conversation with her. Then I got her number with the intention of being her friend but we clicked on a different level. Now i cuffed her and she's all mine.
Written by: Sharon Mills
HBCUs are the breeding ground for Black Excellence and Asia Milia exemplifies that. This Hampton University Class of 2017 Alumna was already making strides in her career before she even walked across the stage. She graduated from Hampton University with a BA in Strategic Communications and she is currently working at In-Style Magazine while also maintaining her very own website, asiamilia.com. Can y'all say #GOALS.
At the age of 21, she has worked with brands like Fashion Bomb Daily, Hot97, Essence, and New York Fashion Week. Yes you read that right. She has covered events at NYFW in undergrad. There is not one box you can put her in, she's simply Asia Milia. Check out her interview with our team member Sharon Mills below!
Sharon: Who are your influences or inspirations that made you, you?
Asia: So I have people that inspire me that I look up to & I have people that more so motivate me. In the industry, my number one answer is always Claire Sulmmers I’ve looked up to her since I wanted to go into the industry. She’s Editor-in-Chief & Founder of Fashion Bomb Daily which I’m blessed enough to work with now. everything about her - her work ethic, style, journey, leadership - everything about her inspires me.
If you’re to ask who inspires me to be who I am now, I would definitely say my mom because she always pushes me and supports me and she never told me no when it comes to something I want to do. She was never like “Oh I don’t think you can do that”. My boyfriend, he always supports me and without those two, i don’t think I’ll be where I am because they are my support system. I also have great friends. I have a very small circle. Those are the people who I can call or text at 2 or 3 in the morning with an idea or anything and they always pick up and believe in me.
I also have a big sister from Hampton who inspires me and then my little cousin (17 years old) and my niece (8 years old). They inspire me because I feel like I have to do it for them. They don’t really have anyone else in the family to look up to and say like – not only did she graduate from college but she did it like this. When I was in college, I had my own brand. I worked with amazing brands and you know, I am who I am. I feel like they need that to look up to. They inspire me because I know if I just give up, I know that I have them looking up to me & I don’t want them to ever think it’s okay to just give up.
Sharon: I completely understand what you mean. I feel the same way about my niece she’s five and I want to show her there are other ways that you can be successful outside of a 9-5. I totally understand what you mean. But another question I have you is: How would you describe your style? I feel like you’re not in one category with your style either. It definitely resembles your personality in my opinion but how would you describe it?
Asia: Yeah it does. I don’t like to box my style because I’m someone who can step outside with a pant suit one day and slay it then step out with a bodycon dress the other day. I say my style, it’s me. This question is always hard for me because I feel like there’s not a word to describe myself. Its not anything eccentric or anything or extremely out of the box. I just think my style is me. It’s fun, young, while still professional. That’s why blazers are like my number one thing. I also love prints. When I think of my style, I think about me and everything that I represent. I am a walking brand. So whatever I put on, I have to represent who I am.
Sharon: So being an HBCU grad [Hampton University], how important do you think Black spaces are? Not just in education but overall in society.
Asia: It’s extremely important because when you live in a country that’s not for you, you need outlets that are for you. It’s important because everyone else in the world has outlets and models to look up to. When I say models I don’t mean like models on the magazine. We need models in everything and we need to be in everything. This country is not for us, honestly. Going to an HBCU, the thing is everyone always preaches “I’m Woke” or “Stay Woke” but the reality is, who really is? People say it for social media and everything but it’s so important for us to have black outlets and stuff for us because it’s like for the people who claim their woke but aren’t really woke to have that [black outlets] there for them, it may make them think maybe I’m not “woke” but I need to see this or I need to hear this. Seeing Black bloggers or Black reporters, black educated women and men it’s important because we deserve to have that example of people for our culture.
I also think it is important to know the other side as well because. Going to an HBCU was the best decision I ever made. I’ve worked for my HBCU [Hampton], I worked for Essence that’s for black women & I loved it. My blog empowers black women. I’m also with Fashion Bomb Daily which is a team of Black Women but I’m excited to be branching out to InStyle magazine which caters to all women. In order to understand why you’re going so hard for your [Black American] culture, you need to understand the American Culture as well.
Sharon: What would you say to women starting their fitness journey?
Asia: I would say really know what you’re getting yourself into and get ready. I say this because it’s so easy to say oh I’m gonna go on a diet. I hate that word diet because you shouldn’t diet. Make it your lifestyle. You can diet but when you’re done you’re just going to go back to the same things you were doing before? But when you make it a lifestyle, if you fall off, it’s okay. You’re not going to break down because you know you live a healthy lifestyle anyway I can jump right back into it tomorrow.
Be determined and be ready to be consistent. If it was easy, everybody would do it. Be determined and know what you want. I don’t want to say it’s pointless but it’s like going to school and not knowing if you want your degree. You’re just going to school and taking classes for no reason. If you don’t have the goal of a degree, then you’re there for no reason. And it’s the same thing with a fitness journey. I’m not necessarily saying that you should have a goal weight or a goal look but have a goal like, “Do you want to be healthy?” and also know who you are and be okay with having setbacks because they come. I don’t mean to keep using school but you know sometimes with school, finances fall off and you have to take a semester off from school and you’re not finishing in four years like you wanted to because you were set back and it’s the same thing in a fitness journey. Maybe you went through a breakup, or a financial point where you couldn’t afford to eat healthy or a gym membership, or maybe a loss in the family. But I think it’s important to be okay with and accept setbacks because we live in this social media world where we see people who are doing so amazing. That’s why I share my journey on Instagram like that so you can see when I lost 50 pounds, when I gained 20 pounds, when I lost 5 or gained 30. I want people to see me work to lose it back. I want people to be okay with setbacks because some people would feel like “Dang, I lost” and it shouldn’t be like that. It should be like “I came this far and this happened but I’m going to do it again”. That’s something I wish I would’ve known when I started my fitness journey.
Asia: To go out to events! Even if you’re not the type to go out or if you don’t feel like it, go out to these events! That’s gonna sound like, “What kind of advice is that?” but I say that to say… with me for example: I’m not the type to just go out and be in the mix. But going out and being in the mix is what got me where I am. You’ll get business cards, you’ll meet people you never knew you were going to meet and you never know who’s going to remember you. For example, with Claire Slummers (Editor-in-Chief of Fashion Bomb Daily), I got my internship with Fashion Bomb Daily from going to an event. When you see events on Eventbrite or even Instagram go to them! Even when I was in school, any events I saw with people in the industry that I wanted to be in that were going to be on campus I was like I’ll be there. Meeting these people face to face and passing those business cards, telling them who you are or even giving them your Instagram, they may follow you and now their watching you.
Also, make sure your personal brand is good. I was told this by Gia Peppers, “If your personal brand is good, you’re good! Your personal brand carries through your social media and your day to day life. How you carry yourself in the streets. When you go to these events, don’t get pissy drunk. You never know who’s watching.
Written by: Abu Sillah
Undergraduates from Spring 2017 who have earned degrees in Science, Technology, Engineering, & Mathematics had job opportunities from Cisco, Raytheon, and Orbital ATK. Aside from that the past three classes of grad students who earned a Doctorates in Physical Therapy have received a 100 percent passing rate on the licensure exam on the first try. The University of Maryland Eastern Shore offers 37 undergraduate majors, 15 master’s degrees and eight doctoral programs.
Written by: John Livengood
I remember walking into my alma mater, the University of Maryland Eastern Shore, with a sense of wonder and a hint of vagueness. I didn’t have any clue of what I wanted to do. I just knew I love media , so I studied english and telecommunications. I couldn’t find my classes, had no job, stayed on a weird looking campus dorm, was out of shape, and needed to sleep. Looking back, I wasn’t nowhere near ready to succeed my first week. I wanted to go home but I decided to stick it.
I went out and made friends that I still hang out with this days. The three friends were Omari, Jordan, and Terrell. Later on we became the first four original members of the HBCU Roundtable. “Turn up or transfer,” the motto for that first week in particular. It helped me transform from an introvert to an extrovert and the first week help me a lot with that process. I met people from Baltimore, Philadelphia, New York, New Jersey, and other places. Process the new slang from other regions of the east coast took some time, and it confused me.
Another thing I wasn’t used to, being a young man of the tender age of 18, is having a lot of beautiful, single women around me and having the ability get drunk every day. I learned quickly during that week that I had to make my grades a priority over desires. I learned to knocked out my school work during the week, and treat my desires during the weekend. From that point on I decided to stick with school and make it my comfort zone.
First Week of Grad School
That decision paid off big time! I know am a part owner of a media LLC., a grad student at a young age on a full scholarship, have a network of 300,000 plus, and have affirmed my faith in God. That doesn't mean i don’t have challenges but with a different sense of maturity, they don’t seem to be as big as it would’ve been my first week of undergrad.
Now I know what I want to be in life! I will be the best media practitioner, business owner, actor, and educator this world has seen so far. So far, I love the sense of learning from well rounded professors excites me compared to when I was 18, and had no idea of where higher education can take my career path. I even decided after I get my masters in organizational communications concentrating in public relations, I will pursue my JD in media.
The sense of nostalgia of having another first week of education hit me, and flashbacks of undergrad have hit me this whole week. It’ amazing God granted me this opportunity. Now it’s time for me to take this opportunity and run with it.
Written by: Sharon Mills
The following HBCU student you're about to see always made it a priority to be the flyest on the yard. With that being said, let's see if your schools flyest made it this week!
Kayla Mosegi - The University of Maryland Eastern Shore
Kayla is a stylist from New Jersey attending The University of Maryland Eastern Shore. Ms. Mosegi is a Fashion Merchandising major and stylist. This past summer, she interned with a designer showroom where she helped some of your local and celebrity faves.
Kayla has been featured on HBCUbuzz and the infamous Fashion Bomb Daily for her style and styling capabilities. She was the stylist for modeling troupe, Bazaar Models Entertainment and is now the head stylist for UMES' new modeling troupe, Haus Of Legacy. Take a look at some of her work!
Written by: Sharon Mills
The following HBCU students you're about to see have always made it a priority to be the flyest on the yard. With that being said, let's see if your schools flyest made it this week!
Samiyah Gaddy - Hampton University
You know what they say about Hampton women but this Jersey bred beauty has been serving looks before attending The Real HU. Samiyah is a 19-year-old sophomore at The Hampton University majoring in Journalism.
Written by: Sharon Mills
Before we were admitted into PWI's [Predominately White Institutions], Historically Black Colleges & Universities were the only spaces where African Americans could get an education in the United States. The majority of the 107 HBCU's have humble beginnings in churches, old plantation houses, or simple single framed buildings. The first HBCU, "The Institute for Colored Youth" [currently known as Cheyney University of Pennsylvania], was founded in 1837 by Richard Humphreys a foreign philanthropist who had a passion for helping the former slaves who were not able to attain jobs due to their lack of education. The University of Maryland Eastern Shore [formally known as the Delaware Conference Academy then Maryland State College] is on former plantation grounds in Princess Anne, Maryland, the same town where Maryland's last recorded lynching was.
Historically Black Institutions are important because we need black spaces in society. We need black spaces where our legacy can live on and thrive forever. Xavier University in Louisiana graduates the most African American medical students in the United States. Hampton University's Mary Jackson helped break barriers in engineering at NASA in the 1960s and was recently featured in the movie Hidden Figures. Hip Hop's first sole Billionaire will likely be Howard University's Sean Combs. HBCUs are the breeding places for Black Excellence. It is important that we keep these black spaces available for generations to come so we can be emerged in our history. Continue to give back to our institutions and keep the spotlight on HBCUs